Hi everyone, I'm new to the forum and I'm apologising in advance for the possibly rambling message!
This is really a question about diplomacy!
I have been talking to my son's school since he started in yr 7 about my concerns that he is dyslexic. I was fobbed off at every attempt by his form tutor and when I asked to also speak with his head of year was actually told that I was just being a little hard on him and "he's so sweet" - I never disputed the fact that he's a really lovely boy but I thought 27 detentions in the first term probably warranted some attention in a boy who has never had a single discipline problem.
I was very conscious of being labelled as a worrier, or even worse making excuses for him, despite the fact that his Grandma actually emailed them with her observations as someone who has worked with dyslexic learners for 35 years and now heads a student support service. I was unable to get past his teachers to the SENCO and was passed back whenever I tried so eventually I took the step of paying over £500 to have him assessed privately by and educational psychologist. This showed that he was in fact quite severely dyslexic and had simply been getting by because he is also incredibly bright.
My dilemma is now that I have the form I have a way to get the school to provide the appropriate support but I am also keen to make sure that the school know that I am extremely disappointed in their attitude over the last 12 months. Many people trust the teachers to know and, had I not had my mother pointing me in the right direction and the ability to scrape together the money to pay for testing, I would have probably given up and my son would have still been worrying and blaming himself.
How do I ensure that the school is appropriately made aware of the problem, and forced to make changes, without jeopardising my relationship and potentially making things more difficult for my son to get the right support?