Chores and responsibilities for a 7 year old

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Chores and responsibilities for a 7 year old

What do you think are appropriate chores and responsibilities for a 7 year old (girl)?

Should they have none, just enjoy being a child?

Obviously, they get a certain amount of homework. But beyond that?
- Laying the table for dinner? Every night?
- Drying up? Every night?
- Tidying up their room? Once a week?
- Brushing their own hair?
- Laying out/hanging up school clothes rather than throwing them in a heap?
- Placing dirty clothes in their laundry hamper?

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Alex (11) does a lot of clearing tables, drying and putting away after I've washed up, collecting the dirty clothes and bringing them in the kitchen for me to sort and wash, cat related chores... etc.

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Thanks, Bethduckie.

Just out of interest - how much of that would you say is pre-determined (this week you will do X,Y and Z (and receive reward A?)) and how much do you just decide on the spur of the moment?

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Being a child is merely learning how to be an adult, lol, so I agree they should have chores.

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oh, just seen your reply.

Depends on the family. I'm very slapdash about chores, so it tends to be spur of the moment. Families with a better routine would be different.

And you will have to remind them in order to get things done. For years. lol.

pollylolly

I think each family is different but you are doing them a huge favour by teaching and encouraging them to put their washing in a basket, put it in a pile if it's to re hung, taking out rubbish, helpign tidy up and I do believe they should have time to be a child but tis unreaslistic for them to grow up thinking the work gets done by magic lol.

We dont' pay for chores, tis their home too, I do it cos it needs doing that should be their reasoning as well but that's not to say that if you feel you want to you shouldn't , with five children it's a lot different to 2.

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Depends how much time the child gets at home each day. Mine only get home at 6 during most of the week, so don't get chores over and above homework etc. However, I do expect both to put dirty clothes in the washing basket, to take dirty plates into the kitchen and to put any rubbish in the rubbish bin, as a matter of course. And to help put away their toys.

My 6 y-o earns stars by doing tasks - putting his ironing away, loading the washer, helping dust etc can all earn stars. He doesn't have specific jobs that have to be done, and anything he does is still mostly voluntary at the moment.

Don't see a problem with simple tasks like laying the table. WOuldn't trust mine to dry up though!

Mum2One

My 7 year old has 2 chores she does on a regular basis, emptying the dishwasher & putting the plastics in the recycling box, she is also encouraged to put her clothes for washing into her laundry bag and to keep her bedroom reasonably tidy.

These chores are not related to pocket money or any other reward she simply does them as she is a member of the household and so has to help and she does enjoy it...makes her feel grown up apparently.

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ED is 7 and no longer sees most of her chores as chores... just things that she now does natuarally.
She is expected to put all clothes in the wash bin, hang up towels after use, wash up after saturday evening meal, tidy bedroom for me to hoover and pick up toys after use.

There are 3 of us live in this house, 3 of us that create mess and 3 of us that clean up. Even YD 4 is responsible for certain little jobs

Trishikins

DS (13) has to keep his bedroom tidy, put his dirty washing into the laundry basket, do his own packed lunches for school and rinse the bath out/sort out the dirty towels after he has used the bathroom. TBH I'm not sure he sees them as "chores" this is what he has done for so long it's now just part of his daily life. He doesn't do them to earn his pocket money either - he does them because it's what is expected of him.

DD is only 4 but she has to tidy her own toys away and help me clean out the rabbits every other day. She wanted the rabbits and I told her at the time OK but you have to help and she does.

I think it does them no favours when they grow up if everything has done for them.

I also make DS iron his own shirts and trousers every now and then, cook a meal for us all (spag bol or something like that), load the washing machine and dishwasher. I think it's important he learns how to do these things and that he doesn't think they are "womens' work". He is a dab hand at ironing a shirt you know!

Trish xx

pollylolly

Totally agree Trish they do need to know. I dont' think they are chores but life skills tbh.

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