Home ed- who is it for?

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Home ed- who is it for?

my SIL is a private tutor and tutors a lot of home ed kids- secondary level. It came up after a family night out and I was a little surprised what she said.

Her opinion is that in her experience, home ed was more about the parents needs than the kids, and also in her opinion most home edded kids would do better at school.

Which is different to my experience- largely on here and other parenting/ SEN sites, which is that home ed is a common progression with SEN kids who aren't having their needs met at school...

So I thought it would make an interesting topic (I've deliberately done this seperate to Tootsie's thread)So- home ed... is it about the kids, the parents, bit of both??

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I have no evidence to back this up, but I think you’re right, in that it’s a bit of both.

You have one group of SEN children who are not getting the support they need at school and so the parents decide it’s best for their child’s development (and that encompasses so much more than just education) to be home schooled.

But you also get another group of parents who, for whatever reason, don’t like something about school - and that ‘something’ I’m sure varies greatly from parent to parent. My ED is currently in year 2 and I know she’s doing a lot of reading, writing and numeracy and I understand why. Next year I expect her to do more art, performing, French, RE etc. I understand parents who don’t want that early academic focus choosing to home school.

pollylolly

I'm afraid I agree with her, the people I've know who have home Edded have really been doing it for their benefits. I've personally not come across any kids that were better off out of school than in. I do feel it's necessary but think that when it does happen it should be far more closely monitored and that funding and/or resources should be made available to the person doing the HE'ing to help ensure the childs needs are met.

Alyth_mum

I suppose you could say I was home-edded for about 6 months when I was about 8 along with my brothers aged 6.
It was NOT my parents's choice .... my father had been posted to Izmir in Turkey (to do with NATO) and we were supposed to be enrolled at the American school in Izmir however the Turkish Government decided to bring in new legistation (?sp) thatmeant that only American children could go to the American usual - apparently we could be enrolled at the British school that was either in Ankara(325) or Istanbul(200miles) (can't remember which). My parents decided that was a little too far for a daily school run. LoL.

So for the rest of that academic year 6 of us had a home tutor: me(8+yrs) and my 2 bros(6+yrs); another 2 boys (bros; 6 and 5+yrs) and another girl (5+yrs) . Realistically the tutor would set me work and then go to another room where the other 5 children were.
That autumn my brothers and I were sent to bording school in UK (aged almost 9 and almost 7) and only went home in the holidays.

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I guess, Alyth-mum, you could say that although that wasn't what your parents wanted, the decision to home school fitted in with their needs at the time, as well as your own need to be educated.

Alyth_mum

It was that or a 500+mile round trip every day ... and the roads in Turkey back in 1970 were to say the least not motorwway standard. LoL.

I know my parents would have been more than happy to let us go to the American school which was only walking distance away - it was the Turkish Government that stopped us so personally I do not see it truely as my parent's decision.

We didn't even have Grandparent's in UK to stay with instead.

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I'm not sure Turkey's roads are motorway standars even today, although probably a lot better than those in GB!!

pollylolly

I think your situation must have been fairly unique tbh L.

Alyth_mum

True ... somehow most of the situations I ended up in as a child were fairly unique ... I don't think the teachers believed half the stories I used to tell. LoL.

pollylolly

LMAO my OH was a bit like that but usually they were far too far fetched to be untrue lol

munty

When we decied to home ed our sons we had to make sure it was right and best for all of us. Some times I wish they were at school so I could get a break! But is it better than school?....Yes yes yes. They love the freedom to learn what they love and it takes them to all sorts of places. The head of the school we left which was top of league tables and had a huge waiting list (yes some people thought we were mad) said "School can not compete with your philosphy and actually I'm jelous" Thinking of that always makes me feel better.

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