Poor parenting leads to violence in schools

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shazzersere
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I agree its not always down too poor parenting,sometimes it is the child especially if they have a condition "A friend of mine works in a school,this friend was only just headbutted yesterday,as well as scratched,punched and slapped,some of this is down too the childs condition,but some of it is also down too the parenting as the child is not disciplined at home and basically mum lets the child get away with everything.

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Daedalus wrote:
So Shazz, you don't think that a child could go to school not a bully, be bullied and decide the only way to stand up for themselves is to bully back (or bully someone else)?

You dont think that bullying is learned behaviour and if teachers, ta or school managements answer is to look the other way, deny it, or even blame the victim that that could possibly lead to the victim becoming the bullier?

I'm not saying it happens all the time, I'm not even saying it's the majority reason, but (and I understand it's human nature) if you ask teachers (and this survey was just a very small number of teachers) they are likely to point the blame away from themselves.

I agree that a minority can go into school and be bullied and then go onto bully themselves i agree,i also think that teachers hands are tied these days,they have to be very carefull when actually touching a child ect,theres so many rules and regulations,so much paperwork you wouldnt belive,i still say take us back 20 years.

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Me thinks like most things it's half a dozen of one and six of the other Smile

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Going back wont solve a lot of things Shazz hen as in the belt or being hit as that incites violence anyway. Teachers 20 years ago most of them where bullies and not geared to helping really. 

The special schools should never have been shut for the different kids I say cos the teachers nowadays are frazzled cos of 1 or 2 kids that are different and need that extra attention and I am not talking the non English speaking ones either. They don't have the know how to cope with them or the training either.

Money is tight in the schooling sector as well so something is going to give and that means more expulsions and more parents fighting it or putting them into other schools for it to happen again and not looking at the bigger picture.

Shazz do you know this child personally or going by what the teachers tell you as the latter could be lies to make them look good and yes that happens in schools lets blame someone else. It's the kid it's the parents not oh shit we failed him now how can we sort this. 

I felt I had failed my son, I felt the worst parent on the planet. I did this when pregnant I did this when he was younger and it wasn't anything to do with that he had a condition well a few conditions actually but some people even today think I should belt his lug for him when on a meltdown and that isn't the same as a tantrum by the way. 

Yes, there are parents out there that have little scrotes for kids that are off the rails and it is down to them but how many parents nowadays are more frightened by that visit from SS because they have smacked little Johnny/Julie so don't and wonder why they have went of the rails. Kids need boundaries and discipline regardless of age is what I am saying but they also need love and praise too. 

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Totally agree Dolly,as well as discipline kids need love and praise too,brings them up too be well balanced individuals.

I also agree about the belt thing i gues there were a lot of trigger happy teachers about then.

I also agree that many parents are scared about a visit from socail services for giving theyre children a tap on the bottom.

Wheres the line? 

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