I just put my DD back into nappies... She's just not interested in staying dry at all.
I started her potty training about a week ago, thinking that the half-term would be a good time. We'd read several potty training books, she'd wanted to wear propper underwear and hated being changed. She could stay dry for a few hours. Several months ago she would go to the potty before settling in bed. So, we started ... The only problem is she doesn't want to sit on the potty at all. She didn't go there on her own, she refused to go there when I sugested. Few times, I use TV to persude her sit on the potty and she had wees and poos there. I gave her lots of hugs and kisses... But... she kept ignoring her potty.
"I don't want to change my nappy, but I won't go on the potty" seems to be her current mindset. She is 3.5 in a few days. What could I do to make her become interested to have wees and poos on the potty? She doesn't want to be a "big girl", saying that she is a Little girl.
I had no problem with my son. He was dry during a day well before his third birthday.
how about a seat on the toilet rather than a potty?
Not interested in this either :(. We offered her this option.
If you made a big deal of taking her out buying her a seat that goes on the toilet, a toilet step that she could decorate and pick some pants she likes, would it work as a bargaining tool?
She loves buying things. When she was asked what she would like to use a potty or a toilet, she said potty. We went to a shop and she picked up her underwear (Holly and Hello Kitty), we offered her a small reward after she used a potty. She loves all of these, she just doesn't want to go on the potty.
I tried to offer a reward for sitting on the potty, she wanted her reward, but was relactant to sit on the potty, so there was a kind of tantrum:" I want ... - Darling, you get some if you sit on the potty..." I don't feel it's a right startegy. I was very lucky with my son.
Curious Iust admit I've given up trying with wiggles he's 2.5 year as he just had no interest and I didn't want to put him off. Dd basically trained herself and es was so easy.
I get uve the added pressure of her starting school do she has to be trained for that. Is she showing an interest in school yet? Could you explain that unless she starts using the toilet she can't start school and meet new friends?
My ds was late 'training' and I remember that it 'clicked' with him just two months before his 4th birthday when he managed to stay dry and then go to the toilet/potty when he needed to without being constantly asked/reminded.
It may have been coincidence, but we had been watching 'Bear in the Big Blue House' especially the one with the using the toilet (or potty as they call it). Getting clean took a while longer as he would still wait for a night time nappy before using that, or even ask for a nappy or pull up in the day if he needed to.
I have a copy of that DVD I'm happy to send it onto you curious if you want it.
Would she use another potty? is it possible she just doesn't like this one? maybe it's not comfortable. Have you tried the sticker chart/rewards system i.e. everytime she uses the potty she gets to put a sticker on the chart?
Have you tried taking her and her potty into the bathroom when you go to use the toilet to show her how?
Thanks everyone for your ideas and support.
I've done almost everything I did with my first child. She is not interested in going to the toilet with me. She even tells me that I can't go there. She doesn't want to be like her friends who all go to the toilet. She is she
I've started using stickers and marbles to encourage her to sit on the potty. I seems that I need to ask her if she would like to get a marble. She is not going there without being asked although she knows that when she gets enough marbles she can get a present from her special box.
I'm not under much pressure to get her potty training done before September. We're going to keep her in her nursery untill the term she is five. Luckily, her nursery has started doing Year R in their setting.
Thanks for offering the DVD. It's very kind, but I've already got it. I search my favourite online shop for some potty training books and saw a few DVDs there.
No problem, it sounds like you have it covered and she'll use the potty when she's ready. x
She'll get there. Children are all different, there is no point trying to compare her with your son and what works with one is not guaranteed to work for the other - I certainly know that my two were completely different creatures when it came to potty / toilet training time.