Starting Nursery tomorrow

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I agree with you, Pol. It's something they don't let you do in our nursery - but the children ARE slightly older, as it is state pre-school so the youngest are just gone three. 'Sneaking' isn't really fair - you've spent so much time with your LO, comforting them and reassuring them that you are close by, suddenly disappearing could cause trauma in some children. The kiss and hug and 'I'm going now, I AM COMING TO GET YOU at such and such a time and then we'll do such-and-such' is far more reassuring, I think. They know you are going, they know you are coming back, and they have something (the such-and-such - going to the shop, watching cBeebies, having a story, whatever) is something they can focus on and look forward to.

My MIL used to try and encourage me to sneak away if I was leaving Ellis with her - I couldn't do it. Part of it was that I didn't want him to think I'd disappeared and wasn't coming back. Part of it was far more typically, horribly morbid of me - what if something truly awful happened to one of us and we hadn't said goodbye and had a cuddle? (Don't mind me, it's just how my mind works....)

pollylolly

It's a point though, I could not have done that with YD, she was far too needy she still is if I disspear but I can leave her any where and she will say 'you 'll come and pick me up after' and she is nearly 11.

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Thanks for all your advice. It is getting better (for both of us) we went this morning and she walked in with this kind of 'resigned to going here now' walk. Everything was fine until we got into her room and there was a father dropping his little boy off. The boy started crying, she looked at him then looked at me and started crying again. I just bent down, gave her a kiss said I'll see her later and walked out. They told me she was fine as soon as i walked out and she is really good durning the day.

The big test is tomorrow. OH is off and he is coming as well. He said that he doesn't think he can handle it of she crys. I think that she will be okay though.

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That's really positive! You're handling it perfectly, well done. Next thing you know, she'll be moaning and crying on weekends because she's NOT going to nursery!

pollylolly

Fabulous love and your OH has to get used to it or he'll be a soft touch forever lol.

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My daughter had a 24-carat strop this mornnig because i told her she couldnt go to school. as she was ill. Don't worry Davelisa, your daughter will love nursery when she settles in.

pollylolly

Oh dear BFG .

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Ridiculous, isnt it? I mean, i know its better this way round than have a small person screaming and hanging onto your leg because they DON'T want to go into school....but its still hard.

pollylolly

Too right it is, like it's a killer when they are the ONLY child to not look back, not wave and say 'bye mum' cos they are so ultra confidant they just do it first day lol

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