Trying to deal with the ex

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Why did he move so far away? It seems that his change of location may cause these sort of problems on an ongoing basis.

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Corris wrote:
Why did he move so far away? It seems that his change of location may cause these sort of problems on an ongoing basis.

To move in with his new partner's family. Her children are older and at secondary school there, and she wouldn't move them, plus her job is based there.
I agree it could cause more problems of this ilk, and of course DD will want to do more and more things outside school as she gets older, even if it's just socialising with her friends, and that really won't be easy with the distances involved. Our days acting as a taxi service are surely only just beginning, and with fuel prices ever on the rise, that's not going to help either!

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I only asked because it felt in your post that there was some resentment to his location being the cause of these problems. I think it makes a difference that he moved there to enable someone else's children to be undisrupted by their parents romantic involvements...

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Says a lot really.....

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TBH we do not know why Father was against his daughter doing gymnastics initially....
* maybe the cost of this sport being so much concerned him as he is unsure if he can fund it long term should she want to continue
* maybe the danger of the sport concerns him. It is high risk (yes many advantages too but injuries alone can be crippling in later life)
* maybe the fact that she already has 2 x a week commitments and he wants his daughter to not over do it, get over tired etc after all 7 is still very young.

It may not be a simple as him not wanting to.

Also I do feel it is unfair that the daughter was told she could do gymnastics before mum and dad discussed and agreed this. It really does put dad in a difficult position as now his initial reaction of no means that if he stands by it he is the big bad wolf as mum said yes and if he changes his mind it means nothing he says stands.

Wonderful that shared care is working (in general) so well for this family tho and has done for 2 years....

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