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What's your opinion?

Hey everyone need a little bit of help with this one. I've been with my partner for just under a year now and things are going alright, we have our issues but what couple doesn't? So anyway here's the dilemma i need your help with. My OH plays an online game a lot and i don't mind it gets him out from under my feet LOL but just this past weekend at his house ( we don't live together) he spent the whole weekend playing this and practically ignored me so i ended up falling asleep. We got back to mine yesterday and he went on the PC as soon as we got in. A little while later i went through and jokingly asked if he was talking dirty to his cyber girlfriend and he said ' ah it's only a bit of fun' i asked him what he meant and he said he'd been speaking (talking dirty) to a woman on the game site he goes on. I told him he was bang out of order and he needed to get off it now and to ignore me all weekend and do this while i was in the room was even worse. I felt(and still do) totally sick that he could do this. I asked him how he'd feel if he was in my position and he said he wouldn't bother. He totally doesn't get how this would hurt me! This morning before he went to work he was all full of apologies and saying how much he loved me and how he would never cheat blah,blah you know the story. What i want to know is am i blowing this out of proprtion or not? This is the same guy who hates the fact i have male friends and gives me grief whenever i speak to them or they txt me. He says things like 'you'd be better off with that guy or is he wanting to sleep with you'etc whenever they txt me or i mention i was speaking to one of them.
I'd really appreciate your opinions please and sorry if this is just ramblings. I'm still trying not to get upset about this.

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I'd play it back at him next time he says about your male friends calling or texting you. If its ok for him its ok for you.
I may also make it a stipulation that if he values your relationship at all, when he's at your house, he doesn't and neither do you, go online. Spend quality time together. Does he really find your company so boring that he feels the need to do that?
Theres an issue of trust there as well, if he tells you, which he has done after you caught him, "Its only a bit of fun". Where does that end, when the phrase its only a bit of fun, endures the sleeping with someone not just the dirty chat.

Failing that, couple of bricks....lol end it, find someone who loves you for who you are and someone who doesn't feel the need add others to the relationship.

xxx

young_mum

I txt him a little while ago and he said that when he's down at the weekend i wanted us to have a no internet weekend and his response was 'good one! i'll be going online' i said to him i'd hide the modem if i had to and he said he wouldnt bother coming down. It bothers me even more because the internet is how we met and when i said that to him last night his response was 'yeah but this woman is in america'. What if he does it again and the next one isn't in america but just along the road????

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Answered your own question there.. if you hide the modem he wont come...!!!!
Get rid woman.
xx

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Get rid of him, he obviously doesn't care about you

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I'd be wondering why he was visiting if all he was planning to do was spend his time online. It sounds a lot like you don't trust him much. You can get through pretty much everything life can throw at you if you have trust in that other person. Without it you're kind of peeing in the wind.x

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If you don't live with him, and you've only been together a year, I would suggest you dump him. He's not showing you any consideration, so why would you want to sit around like a spare part, waiting for him to finish faffing around on his game?

There are plenty of men out there who actually want to be in a relationship with a real person, not with a computer screen. I suggest you delete Boyfriend v1.0 and start looking for an upgrade, preferably a slightly more grown-up model.

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BFG that made me laugh so much BFV1.0 and upgrade...lmao

blondehoney

BFG that is so funny!

saying he won't come if you hide the modem speaks volumes. Is he dating you, or your internet connection?!!!!

Get rid xx

young_mum

Thanks guys. I know what i should do judging by what everyone is saying and whats happened in the past i just cant bring myself to do it :( I've made myself physically ill today with all this :(

Trishikins

I'd let him come to visit and when he turned up at the door I'd shout through the letterbox that he could F off. But then I'm a bit mean like that!

So, he is saying that if there is no modem/internet connection at your house he won't bother visiting you? There's not much to think about really is there love? Get rid of the twit and let him play with himself whilst he's chatting to some big, hairy bloke online - cos that's what his sexy American woman will really be - a big ass hairy rugby player taking the p*ss out of him!

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