Yes. We're touchy here, because it couldn't be you at fault eh?
I asked what was condescending... If I'm at fault, at least have the good grace to specifically point it out to me. I made a post saying that the thread seemed much better now, then I went on to clarify my thoughts about a point that was being discussed and ended by saying I was looking forward to more.
You tell me what was condescending, please.
I believe that parents have a responsibility to ensure that their children start school ready to learn (or as ready as is possible for the individual child) – that means having introduced boundaries and the idea of delaying gratification and it means having books in the house and reading to them (they don’t have to read, of course, but if kids experience books as fun and happy things, rather than having literacy thrust upon them out of the blue at school, they will do far better).
I don't think one needs to sit down and do maths with them, but one should take them around interesting places, expose them to different cultural experiences etc before and during school and most of all, as my parents did, display one's own fascination with the world, with history and with culture. I loved feeling that my parents were really knowledgeable (and I think they really are), and I found their enthusiasm infectious.
There's no need for a parent to teach instead of/before a teacher, but as long as parents DO pass on knowledge and enthusiasm for learning, that's what will make teacher's job that much easier.
Emotive topics tend to rouse emotions.
If someone comes onto a website and posts in their first post that they know they are posting on a controversial issue ought not be surprised when the topic is controversial to some.
I'm not sure why this is at all surprising?
Play nice, y'all
Is this a good time to mention that 'Simples' really rattles my cage?
God, i wish parenting were simples, or even simple, depending on whether one is a person or a meerkat... but it isn't is it? If it were, none of us would be members of this site sharing our worries and our woes, I'm betting most of us found this site because we had a question, not because we wanted to share an answer, although that is part of what this kind of forum does as well.
Yeah, cos I iz moderate and restrained and articulate, innit !
to be fair - I wouldn't see the harm in saying that she would win scootering races - because whilst it may not be on the cards at the moment, if she keeps it up and practices then she may well go on to win and there is nothing wrong with a little more encouragement to do better
I've found that my kids DO need the extra encouragement, the 'lies' as you see them - because thats how I encourage them to do better, to keep them interested in what they're doing. My DD loves drawing and could be an artist - she's far better than I could ever be, so it's my job to encourage her and make her believe that she has the ability to succeed and if that means saying - you're doing brilliantly, I love your artwork and think you could be the next Banksy then where's the harm? (and no she's not doing street graffiti lmao)
Making commenting like 'The thread seemed much better' is condescending. In whose opinion is it better, oh yours, so if it goes awry again will that make it 'bad'
I don't see how what you say there is a lie. 'You're doing brilliantly' is encouragement, 'I love your artwork' is blatantly true, and 'I think you could be the next Banksy' is also true as you do think that. My issue is merely with the lying type of praise, the 'You are as good as him' type of comment that gets made to children who come 3rd, 4th, 5th etc. in a race with reference to the winner. Obviously you are not as good, because if you were, you would have won...!
And much as I love my little girl, she isn't winning ANY scootering races today unless they are against snails who left their scooters at home. Of course, I could say to her 'keep practicing and you could win races', there's no lie there.
And I'll stop saying simples.
Oh, and in my quick posting, I forgot the cardinal sin: 'it's not the winning, it's the taking part'. What rubbish - if it isn't the winning, why take part in a competitive event?!?!? If it's the taking part which is fun, run round the block with your friends. Competitions are there to win.
Yeah, flack shields on for that one.
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