I feel exactly the same; George does a day and a half a week in nursery, I've increased my hours so I'm working 2 and a half days from home, and it's not working at all. DH says he won't have George going to nursery for longer hours, so most evenings I end up trying to work once the boys are in bed. 

I try quite often to keep our weekends clear, so that we can go out together, and (DH doesn't know this yet) I've found an ironing lady and a cleaning lady who come twice a week to do the essentials so that I can spend free time doing fun stuff. I pay for them out of my salary, so what he doesn't know can't hurt. 

When I was working I used to delegate bits. Both the girls are old enough to be abe to strip their beds & ut the washing machine on.
They keep their rooms clean. YD does the dusting & cleans out the animals. OD sorts washing & sweeps floors. They both help out with cooking & putting shopping away. But they are both on penalty of no sweets on a Friday still if something doesn't get done...lol

DH does help out a lot; as he works shifts & used to do things like wash the floors when we were all out.
I used to only do ironing on a Sunday, unless it was desperate. And do one complete room blitz once a week, so one week be the front room, next week our bedroom... and so on. Generally keep on top of things & train everyone to be tidy.... lmao..It started off as the Flybaby thing & and kind of become a habit now.
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I so wish id trained my lads when they were younger, at 18 and nearly 22 they dont do anything really, they both work [eldest at Uni and works full time when home in the holidays]  and youngest works 2 days a week and is at college, they hardly clear away after themselves though and im constantly nagging, their words not mine, hubby does what he can but he works 60 + hrs a week, its left to me im afraid, hence why id like to work 3 days a week.

I have a cleaner as well - the MiL.  DH does most of the cooking, shopping gets squeezed in whenever, and no, there isn't enough time to do much of anything.  Weekday evenings are a race against time to get everything done by bedtime, or else stuff just gets left till the weekend.

See over the summer our weekdays have been lovely, once Olly's back at school it'll be a race against the clock getting him to and from his clubs and appointments. Next week he has the dentist, the optician, swim club, judo and a visit to the consultant for a hearing test, I'm already looking forwards to christmas holidays!

Even over the summer I work 3 days and the boys have to be up to go wherever - they have complained a fair bit this year about that, and I don't blame them - I haven't liked it either!

When I worked fulltime I learned to keep meals simple and to batch cook so I always had a supply of chilli, bolognese, curry etc in the freezer.
Even now when I only work school hours 2 or 3 days a week, I make meals for the freezer as it allows me to concentrate on the girls after school rather than cooking. One day recently I was making the meal but I actually had 4 dishes on the go as I figured that if I was chopping veg for one meal, I might as well chop veg for several other meals at the same time.

We've just found out that ys' nursery placement has been changed from an afternoon to a morning one which means that I could work part time from home, I was looking forwarded to it but now I'm not so sure...

Let your standards slip a bit.

Or do what OA does!