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11 ways to teach your child water confidence

Child and parent in swimming pool
Swimming is part of the National Curriculum, but 45 per cent of children leave primary school unable to swim the required 25 metres. Here's how you can help outside school.

Swimming is an important life skill for children. Drowning is the third most common cause of accidental deaths amongst kids, but despite the fact that the National Curriculum requires children to learn to swim 25 metres by the time they leave primary school, over 1,000 schools don't offer any swimming lessons at all.

According to the Amateur Swimming Association (ASA), children need at least 25 hours in the water to give them a reasonable chance of learning to swim, so whether or not your child is having lessons at school, taking them to the pool regularly will do wonders for their confidence in the water. Swimming is also one of the few sports that are accessible for children with additional needs, and once they’ve learnt how to swim, your child is likely to remember how do it for the rest of their life.

Here's how to build your child's water confidence and make sure they get the most out of swimming lessons.

1. Be water-confident yourself

If you spend your time in the pool fussing about getting your hair wet and shrieking if you get splashed, you'll simply be teaching your child that it's normal to be nervous about swimming. It's important to show them that you're comfortable in the water  or at least appear to be! Get your goggles on, tie your hair back and be prepared to get wet. If you’re a bit wobbly, stay in the shallow end, but don’t underestimate how much confidence your child will gain by seeing you enjoy the water.

2. Stay safe

When you're teaching a young child or a non-swimmer to be comfortable in the water, always stay in the shallow end. Find out if there’s a shallow pool in your area; some leisure pools have a beach-like shallow end that's just a few centimetres deep – perfect for nervous youngsters. Others have a variable floor, which is raised for family sessions so the water is shallower. Never try to teach a non-swimming child to swim in the sea or open water.

More than 400 people accidently drown in the UK and Ireland every year and many more suffer life-changing injuries. Learn how to keep your family safe with the Royal Life Saving Society UK's water safety advice.

3. Make it fun 

Games such as What’s the time Mr Wolf? and I Spy will get your child moving. Bring along some pool toys to splash about with, or their favourite bath toys to splash about with – Barbie and Action Man are waterproof!

4. Sing while you swim

Sings songs to help your child feel relaxed in the pool and get them used to the water. Have a go at the Hokey Cokey, Ring-a-ring o’ Roses, If You’re Happy and You Know It and Round the Mulberry Bush. Do the actions together such as blowing bubbles, gently splashing, trickling water and washing their hair and face.

5. Take it slowly

If your child hates putting their face under, teach them to hold their breath and put only their mouth in the water at first. Then move on so they're putiing their mouth and nose under; do it with them and hold hands so they can see your eyes and hair aren’t getting wet. Goggles might help them feel more confident about putting their face in the water, and can help them develop their aquatic breathing skills (and they'll love the novelty of being able to see underwater) – although bear in mind that eventually they need to be able to swim without goggles, too, and some swimming teachers don't allow children to wear them.

6. Teach them to float 

Floating is a key skill that could save your child's life if they fell into water, so it's important to teach them how to do it. Support your child on their back and sing a song such as Twinkle Twinkle Little Star for reassurance. Now try on their front. Eventually they will be able to do it on their own and can try stretching their arms and legs into a star shape, and curling up into a tuck position.

7. Encourage arm movement

Walk through the water together, practising the arm actions for breaststroke and front crawl.

8. Try kicking

Use the side for support, with your child holding the trough or rail and lifting their legs up. Hold them under their tummy at first; you’ll know they’re feeling comfortable when they stretch out into a flatter position. 

9. Use a flotation device

Although your goal is for your child to swim without aids, armbands and other flotation devices are brilliant for confidence. Buoyancy vests, arm discs, arm bands, woggles and floats are good to try out – always check they are British Standard-approved, and never use rubber rings for non-swimmers. Make sure your child spends time in the water without aids as well, otherwise they might begin to rely on them too much and find it difficult to learn to swim on their own. The ASA doesn't specify which type of buoyancy aid is best for children, but if your child is also doing swimming lessons (or will be in the future), it's worth asking their teacher what they'd prefer you to use. 

10. Make it routine

Go to the pool regularly with your child, even during the winter. It might be chilly outside, but the water will be warm and the pool is likely to be less crowded than in the summer. Like anything, improvement will happen much quicker if your child keeps practising.

11. Sign up for swimming lessons

If you can afford it, consider taking your child to swimming lessons in addition to going swimming as a family. Look for lessons run by an ASA-qualified teacher, with no more than 12 children in the class. For beginners' classes, the teacher will usually be in the water with the children, and teaching will be through a games-based approach, introducing strokes and techniques gradually. It's worth keeping up with swimming lessons even if your child is also going swimming with school: the ASA says this is the ideal approach to helping kids learn to swim, and as well as learning a life-saving skill, your child will be developing a healthy habit that could last a lifetime.

You can use the ASA's Poolfinder to find a pool in your area that offers approved swimming lessons for your child's age and stage. 

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